Have you ever felt like a failure in your business?
First, let me tell you you’re not alone I’ve experienced this on more than one occasion in my business and I’m sure we’ve all had those moments in our business where we didn’t know how to do something or we’ve set goals and missed them leaving us feeling like we’ve failed.
I’ve been hanging out here in Kelowna, BC with my husband watching him play in a tennis tournament and the more matches I watched the more I started to think about failure and how athletes handle set back.
You see on the first day of the tournament my husband played two matches, he struggled a bit in the first match and won the second. Then on the next day he lost both of his matches, which were hard losses for him to swallow.
Not because he lost the matches or from being competitive but to be honest it was because he has been working on moving past where he’s been stuck for a bit when it comes to tennis, setting up for the ball.
After his last match, we were sitting outside on the curb in the shade eating ice cream and talking (it was 37C) ice cream was in order.
He said something that really hit home. He said he felt like he had failed and was failing at tennis.
And let me share this, he is the hardest working man I know in work, life and his passion for tennis, so I knew this simply wasn’t true.
I immediately looked at him and said something to the effect:
Failing is sitting on the sidelines wishing and hoping to play to be great but never taking action or even getting in the game — at least your in the game!
And let’s face it this is the same for business or heck really anything in life. If you’re brave enough to jump in with both feet and work hard so what if something didn’t go your way or something didn’t quite work out the way you thought it might – at least your in the game. That’s so much more than a lot of other people out there and that is truly winning at life to me.
So, we have this simple little rule in our house.
You get 24 hours to feel crappy, frustrated, upset whatever you need to feel but then it’s done and it’s time to move on and get back in the game.
We are NOT hardwired to fail in fact if you were to look at a baby learning to walk have you ever noticed how many times they fall? Could you imagine if we were hardwired for failure instead of success and what that would really mean for us?
So if you’re feeling like things are hard right now, or that nothing is working or like you’ve failed in some way in your business I encourage you to take a day feel whatever it is that you need to feel and then hit reset and dust yourself off and try again because we are not hardwired to accept failure as our final outcome.